Life can be challenging--especially our relationships. We all want to feel more connected to our partners. But where do we start? According to marriage and family therapist Michelle Becker, the answer is with ourselves. By learning to practice self-compassion, we are better able to respond to our partners with love and acceptance--even when they inevitably cannot meet our every need. In this caring and insightful guide, Becker shows readers how to escape "reactivity mode" and increase intimacy using techniques from her renowned Compassion for Couples program. Instead of defaulting to annoyance, disappointment, or detachment, readers learn mindfulness, compassion, and other skills that bring them closer and enrich their lives together. For happy couples looking to strengthen their relationship, or those facing obstacles, Becker leads the way to greater trust, mutual understanding, and a renewed sense of warmth. The companion website provides audio downloads for the guided meditation practices.