The Right Words to Solve Problems, Soothe Feelings and Teach Values.
Part of the 'How To Say It' series.
Dr Coleman, a family therapist and father, reveals the six fundamental approaches to talking with children. These six basic ways of communicating - forming the mnemonic TENDER, cover every conceivable issue of concern:
Teach
Empathise
Negotiate
Do's and Don'ts
Encourage
Report
Here's the reference manual parents will want to turn to again and again as their children age and new problems and tougher questions emerge. Loaded with ready-to-use information, a puzzled or frustrated parent can come away with a new idea or strategy that can be instantly applied.
The book contains practical, how-to advice based on various scenarios, "Smart Talk" side bars - new insights to the issues important to parents, and helpful "Rules of Thumb" - short but sweet tips, such as:
- The best reward for a child is a responsive parent
- Don't respond with a tone of voice more intense than your child's
- If anxiety is high, it is not a time to lecture or give advice
